How many times have you felt like you had to do everything yourself? I know I have in many ways along my life.
When I was in my 20s, I had to do everything myself because I had to have everything the way I liked it. I cringe now thinking of the times when I would re-do something someone else did (from the house not being clean enough to rewrapping a present with wrinkles in it!)
When I was in my 30s, it was all about everything I did being an extension of me. So, if my team (at work) did something, then I had to approve everything to ‘ensure’ it was ‘good enough’ to meet my high standards. Ugh! Talk about exhausting!
Now that I’m in my 40s, I’ve relaxed a lot (not entirely), yet a LOT about all of these areas. I realize that trust goes a L-O-N-G way and the more I’m willing to trust others, the more I attract others who are worthy of trust! Wow, such a deal!
Plus, I can use my personal power for good instead of trying to control things!
Yesterday, I talked to a friend who just had a baby. She was grappling with this idea of “I must do everything myself” and it’s first cousin, “Everything must come through me.”
Her baby has a super high metabolism and somehow more breast milk was needed. She had a choice to make…would she allow others to support her? Would she give up the need to be the way?
Once she decided what she most wanted (which equaled – Healthy Baby), then the decision was easy…I want whatever allows me to continue breast feeding and also gives my baby the most health. Soon, several other mothers showed up to donate breast milk and my friend has what she wants…healthy baby, breast feeding and support.
What I see is my friend’s beauty and love reflected back to her. She is ALL about community, she believes it does take a village to raise children, and believes help comes in many abundant ways.
Remember, just say yes…and, remember, you don’t have to do everything yourself! In fact, it can be so much fun when others join you!